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Be with someone who understands what you’re doing, what you’re thinking and is able to bring the best out of you.

I have always heard guys saying things like “Nah. This girl is an easy target, I don’t even have to fight for her”, “There’s no fun if there’s no chase” and “easy girls just don’t last”. Honestly, I never get that. I never do.

I mean, yeah, she’s easy to get, so what? Doesn't that just mean that she’s equally crazy for you like you are for her? Isn’t that supposed to be a good thing since now you guys know that you actually fancy each other, maybe you two can try dating? Who knows, maybe there is a possibility that this will go somewhere! Yet people are always telling me that that isn’t love at all, even if it is, it’s not a strong true love and it’s not worth it.

WHAT THE HELL. How the heck do you even know if that love was true, strong or not if you don’t even try? So if you don’t have to fight means it’s not real? If you don’t have to put in much effort means it’s not strong? I’ve been trying to explain my point of view for a very long time and I guess the phrase finally got to me today.

It’s not about how much you have to fight for this love but how willing you are to fight for it.

I get it, you don’t have to fight for this person at all before you guys got together. Yeah, they say that things that comes easy don’t last. Does that really matter? Cause ask yourself, how willing are you to fight for him/her when things gets tough, times get hard? Maybe to me, how hard you fight for someone is an egoistic thing. Like you want people to know that you have put in so much effort, time and (maybe) money. Yes, the sense of satisfactory of winning the someone’s heart is just irreplaceable. Then again, how does the amount of effort put in equate to how strong the love is? How does how hard this relationship comes by proportionate to the strength of love you have for that person? Yes, you might have fought a lot for her, but ask yourself, how willing were you during this period of fight? Did you not give up cause you really loved her? Or was it simply cause you’ve fought for so long and so hard that you just can’t afford to give up?

Personally, I believe that you don’t have to fight very hard in order to be with someone and it’s not true that good things that comes easy doesn’t last. He/She can come easy and whether is last or not, it depends on how much you're willing to fight for that person. When bridges are being burned down, communications become hard, how much more are you willing to take before you call it quits? How much more effort are you willing to put in before you walk out of the door and say goodbye forever? 

To me, that is what that defines how strong a love is. To me, that’s what love is. It’s not how much you have to fight for that person, it’s not how much you have to spend, how much you had to sacrifice. It’s about how willing you are about taking up all the bullshit just to keep the person by your side. How you never want to give up because you know that even after all these bullshit, he/she is the one that you want to see the moment you open your eyes, before you sleep and everything in between. He/She is the one that you want to share your every bit of happiness, sadness and anger with and life is just never going to be the same without this person. 

I may have never been into a relationship and I can tell you straight that I have no idea what is a relationship all about but I believe that this love isn’t just between a couple. It can be the love for your best friend, the love for your animal or even simply, the love for your family. 

Maybe you’ve got this figured it out long ago, maybe you have not but I’m just glad that I figured this out today and for now, I am just waiting for someone who can relate to this and know exactly how I feel. 

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